Okay....I'm finished with my temper tantrum, pity party now. I've just so had it with work...and with my teenaged daughter and finishing up the refi. I guess I was much more stressed than I realized.
My oldest will be 16 in December...and she's literally is making me insane. She is ditching classes, failing classes, smoking and just generally has a horrid attitude, especially with me. She is generally cruddy to Bill too...but she particularily hates me. She wasn't raised this way. She used to be sweet and helpful and loving. Now, I realize some of this is simple teenaged angst. But only some of it. I can say I didn't act this way. My Dad died when I was 12 so being the eldest, I tried to do what I was asked, when I was asked. I wanted things to be easier for my Mom. Kait is just being a snot. I lost my temper with her last Wednesday after a day from hell at work. i was beyond angry. I don't know what to do with her. We tried taking her to a psycologist/psychiatrist... what a waste of time that was. She either sat and stared and refused to speak or in one instance, the shrink told her to straighten up or we would kick her out of the house, have her arrested or have the police take her to school. Well, I won't throw my 15 y/o daughter away, no matter how tempting some days. She has done nothing to be arrested for...and the police have better things to do than take truant children to school. SOme days I just close my door and cry...it isn't very productive...but it's better than knocking her block off~
My oldest will be 16 in December...and she's literally is making me insane. She is ditching classes, failing classes, smoking and just generally has a horrid attitude, especially with me. She is generally cruddy to Bill too...but she particularily hates me. She wasn't raised this way. She used to be sweet and helpful and loving. Now, I realize some of this is simple teenaged angst. But only some of it. I can say I didn't act this way. My Dad died when I was 12 so being the eldest, I tried to do what I was asked, when I was asked. I wanted things to be easier for my Mom. Kait is just being a snot. I lost my temper with her last Wednesday after a day from hell at work. i was beyond angry. I don't know what to do with her. We tried taking her to a psycologist/psychiatrist... what a waste of time that was. She either sat and stared and refused to speak or in one instance, the shrink told her to straighten up or we would kick her out of the house, have her arrested or have the police take her to school. Well, I won't throw my 15 y/o daughter away, no matter how tempting some days. She has done nothing to be arrested for...and the police have better things to do than take truant children to school. SOme days I just close my door and cry...it isn't very productive...but it's better than knocking her block off~
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I'm so sorry, sweetie, that you're going through so much.
Hang in there with her. My sister fought against my mom for years and she came through on the other side and that was doing all the things your daughter is doing and more.
You've got support here, sweetie. I know it's got to be awful. ((((HUGS))))
Thanks Ladies,
I am trying to be consistant. And Bill and I are making sure she doesn't play us against one another. The rules are the same as they have always been, she's just looking for loopholes to what she feels are unfair rules. Personally, I don't think they are that hard to follow...Attend class, get decent grades, be a participating member of the family and be civil to the family. I'm not asking for "Ms Teenaged Perfect right now...just something other than The "beast within". I'm trying....I am just afriad I'll fail. Bill says at some point she may have to crash and burn to "get it". I'm just hoping to avoid that as it isn't what I want for her. I want her to have more than I have had, to have both parents in her life, to have a stable home, to get a great education. I'm just afraid the path she is chosing right now will steer her down a path that is hard to return from.
... and I don't know why I'm anonymous...lol~
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